An open letter to my Angel and all of my daughters
Naming our children was an important process for us. We felt your names were important. We were hopeful your names would help remind you of the wonderful family and cultural legacies you would continue as you lived your lives. We hoped your names would remind you of how wonderful, beautiful and special you are. When you were born, we knew we had chosen the perfect name. You were and are our Angel. We did not expect society to rename you bitch and whore so aggressively before you had a chance to own your lovingly gifted name. We did not expect for society to belittle the importance of names. We did not know that the names pop culture deemed almost necessary to assign to you and call out to you often and repeatedly would seep into your being. We did not know you would be okay owning these names bitch and whore with the names lovingly gifted to you. We were foolishly blind sighted. As you become a woman, we can’t and won’t tell you how to name yourself and own it, but we hope you reject the names being spewn out through,ironically, the creative community of music, art and media. Some people believe a name is just a name with limited meaning and influence but we believe differently. We believe spoken words translate into action, transformation and power. We believe the names you we are called transform, create and unleash power to make a better world. We hope you begin to see this as part of your world view. We hope you begin to speak out and name yourself to power and transformation and love. We hope you own and accept and call out a name for yourself that says I am beautiful and brilliant. We hope at the end of the day the name we lovingly gifted you reminds you of who you really are and will continue to become and it’s not a bitch or a whore. It is beauty, intelligence, wisdom, awesomeness, love. It is Angel.